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New Coaching Offering: The Relationship Trigger Breakthrough
Do you struggle in relationships?
Do you become a version of yourself that you don’t recognise?
Do you abandon your own needs to avoid conflict and maintain connection?
ATTACHMENT & NERVOUS SYSTEM COACHING WITH NAT
Understanding how your attachment style and nervous system influences the way you seek connection can help to create safety and security in your relationships.
When you address your insecure attachment patterns, including nervous system dysregulation, to become more secure you’ll:
– learn to approach relationships from a place of connection, not protection
– learn to recognise and express your own emotions and needs
– become less triggered
– learn to show up more authentically in relationships
In this online Meetup group we'll:
– chat about attachment styles
– learn about how our nervous system dysregulation can sabotage our relationships
– share practical tools to move towards healthy co-regulation and self-regulation
– learn about core wounds, expressing needs, emotional patterns, boundaries and more!
Can't wait for our next event? Schedule your free 30-minute strategy call today (includes 1 personalised strategy to move you towards secure attachment) if you:
– feel unsafe in relationships
– struggle with boundaries
– have little/no awareness of your relationship needs
– struggle with conflict
– have relationship anxiety
Visit: https://thisbeinghuman.live
About Natalie:
Natalie is a trauma-informed attachment coach. Transform your relationships through a greater understanding of how attachment theory influences the way you seek connection. 121 attachment coaching available online or in Brisbane, Australia. Group events available online and throughout SE QLD.
Upcoming events (4+)
See all- Fearful Avoidant Support GroupLink visible for attendees
Do you:
- Fear abandonment while also fearing too much closeness in relationships
- Get overwhelmed by emotions and feel volatile in relationships
- Feel exhausted and confused in relationships as they bring triggers and fears to light
- Crave and simultaneously distrust deep connection
- Experience extreme highs and lows in relationships
- Find it difficult to trust others in romantic relationships and are often suspicious
If you answered ‘Yes’ to many of the above statements, fearful avoidant attachment patterns may be negatively influencing your relationships.
In adulthood, those of us with fearful avoidant attachment patterns often struggle to feel safe in relationships.
A highly-sensitive nervous system may lead to lots of dysregulation and reactivity.
We may crave deep connection while also fearing vulnerability.
In short, it can be a wild, wild ride to have fearful avoidant attachment patterns.
As part of this new monthly series, I invite those who recognise they lean fearful avoidant to join me in deep diving into the different behaviours, actions, thoughts, emotional patterns and relationship expectations of this attachment style.
To kick off the monthly series (July 3rd) we’ll explore the relationship between emotional enmeshment and the fearful avoidant attachment style.
Emotional enmeshment is a dysfunctional relationship dynamic characterised by blurred boundaries, excessive emotional closeness and a lack of personal identity. Emotional enmeshment can occur in family, romantic relationships and friendships.
When there’s emotional enmeshment in our early relationships with caregivers we often subconsciously believe that love and connection is something we earn through meeting the emotional needs of others.
Healthy boundaries and open communication are key to overcoming enmeshment and building secure relationships.
About Natalie:
Natalie is a trauma-informed attachment coach. Transform your relationships through a greater understanding of how attachment theory influences the way you seek connection. 121 attachment coaching available online or in Brisbane, Australia. Group events available online and throughout SE QLD. To schedule a free discovery call visit https://thisbeinghuman.live.
- Anxious Preoccupied Support GroupLink visible for attendees
Do you:
- Constantly desire more and more connection
- Form fantasy bonds in relationships – getting very attached to the idea of who someone *could* be, rather than how they’re actually behaving
- Self-abandon and people please to maintain connection with others
- Cling to partners to derive safety
- Fear abandonment and dislike spending time alone
- Struggle to identify own feelings and needs
If you answered ‘Yes’ to many of the above statements, anxious preoccupied attachment patterns may be negatively influencing your relationships.
In adulthood, those of us with anxious preoccupied attachment patterns often crave more and more connection in relationships.
We may be hypervigilant for signs that a partner’s interest has waned.
A text left on read or a phone call unreturned for longer than expected can see us spiralling.
In short, it can be anxiety inducing to have anxious preoccupied attachment patterns.
As part of this new monthly series, I invite those who recognise they lean anxious preoccupied to join me in deep diving into the different behaviours, actions, thoughts, emotional patterns and relationship expectations of this attachment style.
To kick off the monthly series (July 5th) we’ll explore the relationship between emotional regulation, self-soothing and the anxious preoccupied attachment style.
The anxious preoccupied attachment style often has its roots in inconsistent early attachment experiences – sometimes caregivers were available and responsive to our need for connection and attunement, and sometimes they weren’t.
In adulthood, this inconsistency is the anxious preoccupied’s relationship kryptonite - creating an intense, even excruciating, need for external reassurance and validation.
Because of our external focus, self-soothing is often an underdeveloped relationship skill for the anxious leaning. And yet, self-soothing and a greater awareness of our emotional triggers is the key to creating the balanced, healthy and intimate relationships we crave.
Together, we’ll explore simple self-soothing practices.
About Natalie:
Natalie is a trauma-informed attachment coach. Transform your relationships through a greater understanding of how attachment theory influences the way you seek connection. 121 attachment coaching available online or in Brisbane, Australia. Group events available online and throughout SE QLD. To schedule a free discovery call visit https://thisbeinghuman.live.
- Healing the I Am Abandoned Core WoundLink visible for attendees
Following on from the June 22nd workshop Why We Self-Abandon and How to Stop, I invite 20 Lovely Humans to join me in rewriting the core wound I Am Abandoned.
The I Am Abandoned core wound often stems from inconsistent caregiving and/or physically/emotionally absent attachment figures. Early schooling experiences of bullying, social rejection or frequent moving can also contribute to this painful wounding.
A common core wound of people with anxious preoccupied and fearful avoidant attachment patterns, the I Am Abandoned core wound can lead to a laundry list of disempowered behaviours in relationships including:
- Self-abandonment
- People-pleasing/fawning
- Clinging
- Trying to maintain proximity at all costs
- Ignoring others’ boundaries
- Expressing fears often
- Making demands for closeness
- Testing
- Trying to make jealous
- Over-reliance on external validation
- Disliking spending time alone
The many benefits of healing the I Am Abandoned include:
- Boosting self-esteem
- Becoming less triggered in relationships
- Approaching relationships from a place of genuine connection, not protection
In this two-hour workshop we’ll:
- Gently explore how the I Am Abandoned core wound forms due to our attachment experiences
- Identify the experiences in your current life that are most likely to trigger your I Am Abandoned core wound
- Learn simple ways to ground yourself when your I Am Abandoned core wound is triggered
- Learn how to identify and express any unmet needs beneath your I Am Abandoned core wound
- Close with an Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) practice to rewrite your I Am Abandoned core wound
Participants will receive:
- A I Am Abandoned Workbook
- A I Am Abandoned Core Wound EFT tapping video recording
Understanding Core Wounds
Core wounds are beliefs we acquire through conditioning. Ages 0-8 are our peak conditioning years due to our highly impressionable brainwave states.
Those with insecure attachment styles tend to have more core wounds, where the securely attached’s core wounds are typically less intense, less frequently activated and situation specific.
The language of our core wounds is simple – ‘I am bad’, ‘I am alone’, ‘I am unsafe’, ‘I am unworthy’. This is because they were often formed before conscious, analytical thinking.
In adulthood, core wounds can present as an inability to regulate our emotions, including:
- Reactivity
- Emotional manipulation
- Controlling behaviour
About Emotional Freedom Technique
EFT, commonly known as tapping, is a powerful practice that combines aspects of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) with ancient Chinese acupressure.
During a tapping session you focus on the cause of stress, anxiety, or even physical pain while at the same time tapping EFT points that correspond with traditional Chinese medicine (TCM) meridians.
For over 2000 years meridians have been seen as energy pathways through which the body’s chi or life force flows. Today, researchers believe meridians are also linked to the nervous system and even brain activity.
Studies have found EFT beneficial for anxiety, depression and PTSD. Physiologically it's been found to lower cortisol and reduce blood flow to the amygdala. EFT is non-evasive, with no contraindications.
About Natalie
Natalie is a trauma-informed attachment coach, specialising in nervous system regulation, limerence and enmeshment. Transform your relationships through a greater understanding of how attachment theory influences the way you seek connection. 121 attachment coaching available. Learn more at: https://thisbeinghuman.live/ or book a free 30-min strategy Zoom call at https://thisbeinghuman.as.me/
- Healing the I Am Abandoned Core WoundLink visible for attendees
Following on from the June 22nd workshop Why We Self-Abandon and How to Stop, I invite 20 Lovely Humans to join me in rewriting the core wound I Am Abandoned.
The I Am Abandoned core wound often stems from inconsistent caregiving and/or physically/emotionally absent attachment figures. Early schooling experiences of bullying, social rejection or frequent moving can also contribute to this painful wounding.
A common core wound of people with anxious preoccupied and fearful avoidant attachment patterns, the I Am Abandoned core wound can lead to a laundry list of disempowered behaviours in relationships including:
- Self-abandonment
- People-pleasing/fawning
- Clinging
- Trying to maintain proximity at all costs
- Ignoring others’ boundaries
- Expressing fears often
- Making demands for closeness
- Testing
- Trying to make jealous
- Over-reliance on external validation
- Disliking spending time alone
The many benefits of healing the I Am Abandoned include:
- Boosting self-esteem
- Becoming less triggered in relationships
- Approaching relationships from a place of genuine connection, not protection
In this two-hour workshop we’ll:
- Gently explore how the I Am Abandoned core wound forms due to our attachment experiences
- Identify the experiences in your current life that are most likely to trigger your I Am Abandoned core wound
- Learn simple ways to ground yourself when your I Am Abandoned core wound is triggered
- Learn how to identify and express any unmet needs beneath your I Am Abandoned core wound
- Close with an Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) practice to rewrite your I Am Abandoned core wound
Participants will receive:
- A I Am Abandoned Workbook
- A I Am Abandoned Core Wound EFT tapping video recording
Understanding Core Wounds
Core wounds are beliefs we acquire through conditioning. Ages 0-8 are our peak conditioning years due to our highly impressionable brainwave states.
Those with insecure attachment styles tend to have more core wounds, where the securely attached’s core wounds are typically less intense, less frequently activated and situation specific.
The language of our core wounds is simple – ‘I am bad’, ‘I am alone’, ‘I am unsafe’, ‘I am unworthy’. This is because they were often formed before conscious, analytical thinking.
In adulthood, core wounds can present as an inability to regulate our emotions, including:
- Reactivity
- Emotional manipulation
- Controlling behaviour
About Emotional Freedom Technique
EFT, commonly known as tapping, is a powerful practice that combines aspects of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) with ancient Chinese acupressure.
During a tapping session you focus on the cause of stress, anxiety, or even physical pain while at the same time tapping EFT points that correspond with traditional Chinese medicine (TCM) meridians.
For over 2000 years meridians have been seen as energy pathways through which the body’s chi or life force flows. Today, researchers believe meridians are also linked to the nervous system and even brain activity.
Studies have found EFT beneficial for anxiety, depression and PTSD. Physiologically it's been found to lower cortisol and reduce blood flow to the amygdala. EFT is non-evasive, with no contraindications.
About Natalie
Natalie is a trauma-informed attachment coach, specialising in nervous system regulation, limerence and enmeshment. Transform your relationships through a greater understanding of how attachment theory influences the way you seek connection. 121 attachment coaching available. Learn more at: https://thisbeinghuman.live/ or book a free 30-min strategy Zoom call at https://thisbeinghuman.as.me/
